For the majority of my life, I struggled with my body image and had a very dysfunctional relationship with both food and exercise.  I was born in 1965 and grew up when Twiggy was the world’s most famous model—the “look” that was valued at that time was long, lanky, and thin, thin, thin!  My very well-meaning mom, who swore by the credo, “You can’t be too rich or too thin,” was diligent about keeping her own weight as low as possible and made sure that I understood that being thin was equated with being attractive and successful.

The only real glitch in the situation was that I was built more like a lineman than a model.  All my life I was a sturdy little gal—never frail and tiny like so many of my classmates growing up. Wanting the best for me, my mom warned that I had a “problem” figure and needed to carefully monitor my food intake so as not to get fat.  I was taught that it would almost be better to be dead than fat.  I personally did not see the problem, but as a kid you believe what you are told.  I internalized the message that my body was a “problem” and dedicated myself to finding a solution. (more…)

I was struck by a quote that I read recently by George Jung: “Life passes most people by while they’re making grand plans for it.”  It really hit me, as I spend many hours talking to clients that have big plans and grandiose visions of what they are going to do. I have been in this position myself: talking a great game but failing to take action and more importantly, failing follow through until the goal is reached.  My Mom used to say, “Don’t tell me what you’re going to do; tell me what you’ve done.” When she would say this to me, I would get annoyed because I wanted someone else to buy into my story.  Now that I have moved past the days that I tell myself “stories” I see the validity of her point.

Many of us talk a good game, but it never goes beyond talk. We need to ask ourselves WHY? Is it that we simply don’t want something badly enough? Is it that we are lazy and don’t want to do the work involved? Is it that we are somehow afraid of success and the responsibility that it will bring? I personally can vouch that I have fallen into all of these mental traps. (more…)

In all my years working in the fitness industry, I have noted patterns of behavior that many of us share.  Unfortunately, most of the behavioral patterns that I see are destructive and hold us back from getting what we really want.  This is a shame, as I do believe that people begin a new fitness and eating plan with good intentions.  Here is but one of the many negative thought patterns that I have observed over the years and have fallen prey to, myself: Thinking of yourself as GOOD or BAD!

If you believe that you are good when you stick to your plan and bad when you take a detour or have a minor setback, you are going to turn a LAPSE into a RELAPSE and finally, suffer a total COLLAPSE!

Let’s say you fall off the wagon.  First, you tell yourself you are bad; yes, you are a bad person because you ate the left over pizza in the fridge.  Labeling yourself as “bad” will make you feel like a failure. You are not good at anything, and Mother was right: you will never marry, have seven cats and die alone.  You think, “What’s the use of even trying?”

Now you feel like you have “blown it,” and since you are a bad person AND a failure and have blown it, why not just totally blow it?

Finally, you spiral into state of worthlessness because you are bad, you are a failure, you have “blown it,” and you have wasted one more day of your life that you’ll never get back.

Sound familiar?  I have been stuck here, circling the drain, myself. (more…)

Have you ever started a new diet and exercise program that fizzles fast because you just can’t take it anymore?  You need to get real!

First, do what works for you.  This is your program, and it must accommodate you—your skill level, and activities that you know you will do.  If you try to follow the same fitness plan as your single gal-pal at work, it may not fit into your life if you are a working wife and mom with three rug rats!  Examine your life, what you like to do, and your limitations.  Customize your fitness plan to meet your needs and it will take less effort to maintain it.

Next, create a plan that you can live with forever: no shortcuts here—your plan is your new lifestyle, and you must create one that you have time to incorporate into your schedule.  Taking extreme measures will do nothing for you in the long run.  It’s better to make and sustain small changes than to do anything too extreme for a short while.  If you get overwhelmed or frustrated when thinking about “forever,” think only about today. Tomorrow will come and you will handle it when it gets here. (more…)

Want to have a social life this holiday season while watching your weight?  Here are some easy tips to keep your waistline in check and still enjoy the dolce vita. I call this list, TEN WAYS TO ENJOY A PARTY AND NOT REGRET IT IN THE MORNING!

1.  Don’t be a two-fisted eater.  Slow down, chew, talk, and keep one hand free to wave at your friends across the room!

2.  Drink smart.  If you want to drink alcohol, drink one glass of sparkling water between imbibing in the fun stuff!  This will fill you up and slow down your intake of alcohol (and empty calories).

 3.  NEVER go to a party famished.  There are two reasons for this: there may not be any (even moderately) healthy fare offered, and arriving starved will undoubtedly lead to binge eating!

 4.  No loitering allowed!  Back away from the buffet after you have filled a plate, and go to the other side of the room to mix and mingle.  Hang out under the mistletoe, NOT at the buffet table! (more…)

Sir Isaac Newton said in his first law of motion, which is also known as the law of inertia, “An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.”

Newton’s Laws of Motion were first published on July 5, 1687, and since then nothing has changed.

It’s a fact: a body in motion stays in motion, and a body at rest stays at rest.  Get up and move your body everyday and you will want to eat in such a way that you feed yourself rather than gorge yourself. (more…)

As you think about what you put in your body, I ask you to consider this:

Hippocrates said, “Let food be thy medicine, thy medicine shall be thy food.”

The Chinese Proverb states, “He that takes medicine and neglects diet, wastes the skill of the physician.”

William Shakespeare said, “Things sweet to taste prove in digestion sour.”

Here in America, we have the very simple proverb, “You are what you eat.” (more…)

When you are trying to transform your body, your health, and your life, there will be pitfalls along the way….that’s just how it is. These pitfalls or “booby traps” are things to which we are all susceptible.  The only way to make sure that you don’t stop your forward momentum toward your goal of personal transformation is to challenge your thoughts and the thoughts and opinions of others that could derail you. (more…)

I am sitting here with writer’s block trying to come up with something interesting to say…nope, no sudden inspiration.

I am tired as a dog, and all around me I see my friends working hard and feeling the pinch of this economy.  I think at this point, we are all in the same boat.

My life since the launch of this site in August 2008 has been interesting, to say the least.  Right after the launch, I left for a ten-day trip to visit my family in Florida knowing that I would come back to a busy, exciting fall in New York City…little did I know what I was in for! (more…)

I am so pleased to be writing this, the first entry in my blog. It signifies the launch of my new web site, and this project has been long in coming!!

Like most people, I am overloaded, under-rested, stretched to the max, and flying by the seat of my pants. As someone that preaches balance to my clients all day long, I often need to remind myself that I need to practice what I preach, or I won’t be taken seriously. Attaining a state of balance in my own life has been supremely challenging lately.

My dear Mom always said, “When it rains, it pours.” Like most old sayings that stick around, this one seems to be true. (more…)